Friday, February 06, 2009

To birth or not to birth

A big story in the news these days in Calgary is about a 60 years old woman who just had twin boys. Seems she and her husband always wanted kids but they couldn't ever conceive. About 10 years ago they tried to get IVF treatment in Canada but she was considered too old. She tried IVF in India (where she is from). They spent all their savings but she couldn't conceive. Last year they again tried IVF in India and she conceived and she just had her two healthy little boys last week. Supposedly she and her husband are taking care of the kids with the women's two parents.
There is a whole lot of hoopla right now about the ethics of the whole thing. Was the woman right to have the kids? Is it fair to the kids?

For me, it's a really hard decision. In a way I understand that people have dreams and this couple has wanted a kid for so long. And they are able to provide both financial and emotional support. But I also wonder how it would be for the kids to grow up with such old parents. It is bad enough having one generation gap between yourself and your parents, here you have two generation gaps. Then again they say that a lot of kids are brought up by their grandparents and they turn out well.
I do wonder why the couple didn't adopt kids when they were younger, but then again a lot of people prefer to have their own kids.

So I don't know. I would love to hear what others thinks.

4 comments:

jeerjeerak said...

perhaps it's harder for foreigners to adopt in US?

Kanmi the Conqueror said...

Yeeeesh. I read just the title and was thinking my nephew/niece was coming >.>

OK, I'll read the entire thing now... maybe

So when are you moving to Tokyo? :D

A Fly on the Wall said...

This was in Calgary in Canada.
But perhaps they had problems as you say.

It makes me wonder how people view blood vs adopted children.

Anonymous said...

You have not heard the whole story. the woman had a lot of problem when she had a C/S for the twins such as severe bleeding due to her placenta Previa (when the placenta is covering the lower part of uterus). The C/S ended up to a hysterectomy which is very dangerous after delivery. She was near to death.
Imagine if she passed away due to the complication. What a woman who accepts all the threats.